Mary J. Murray
January 07, 1930 - June 21, 2017


Friday, June 30th, 2017 - 2:00 PM - 8:00 PM

Spaulding & Curtin Funeral Directors, 500 West Nine Mile Rd., Ferndale


Saturday, July 1st, 2017 - 1:00 PM - 2:00 PM

Our Mother of Perpetual Help Parish - St. James Campus

241 Pearson, Ferndale


Saturday, July 1st, 2017 - 2:00 PM

Our Mother of Perpetual Help Parish - St. James Campus

241 Pearson, Ferndale

Murray, Mary J., 87, of Royal Oak, formerly of Ferndale, died Wednesday, June 21, 2017 in Royal Oak.  She was born January 7, 1930 in Ferndale to Alphonse and Aurora Page.

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“All I need is a little bit of coffee and a whole lot of Jesus”:  Mom built a welcoming home for everyone and anyone to come in and relax.  She would ask if you needed anything - milk, coffee, or something to eat.  Later in life she would ask you to get her the juice or make the coffee, but the sentiment was the same – you were welcome in her home.

“Lord if I must have my just desserts, make mine chocolate”: Mom had a finely tuned sweet tooth – a trait she passed on to at least one of her children (all of them – all of them have a sweet tooth). She liked all foods though, not just sweets.  She would eat the rind of an orange telling us “That’s the most nutritious part!”  The core of an apple – apparently all the vitamins are in the core, you can’t let that go to waste.

“Happiness is yelling ‘BINGO!”: Dang, Mom really loved games.  Bingo for sure, but also Poker, Bridge, Pinochle, and all kinds of rummy and solitaire games.  In a Family Camp poker game, she was dealt 4 Aces on the last hand of the night and cleaned up! In Pinochle she once got all 8 Aces – it’s a once in a lifetime hand or rarer. She was always up for a game of anything and willing to both learn and teach games.

“Work for God, the retirement benefits are GREAT”: Mom’s retirement plan began June 21, 2017 and has several excellent benefits including; no hospital stays, a Welcoming Committee co-chaired by Dad and Rob, Bingo Dabbers that never run dry, and free wi-fi. Seriously though, she was enjoying her life here on earth and was doing something just about every day of the week: Prayer Group, Church and Hambos, Bingo, Bridge Club, and dinners out with friends. She was also looking forward to her life ever after. She was not afraid to die and was ready to go "whenever the Good Lord wants to take me".

“My Boss is a Jewish Carpenter”: Just as Jesus loves us unconditionally, so did mom love those in her life.  No matter how much we disappointed her with our questionable decision making or how seemingly angry we were, there was never one single moment where we questioned her unconditional love for us. That is a powerful gift to receive at any time in one’s life.  We were gifted with it our entire lives.

Mary is survived by her children, Christine (Robert) Vocke, Therese (Eric) Mac Dermaid, Patricia (Kevin) Poli and Richard; grandchildren, Jenna Murray, Robbie (Jane) Vocke, Jonathan Vocke, Kyle Poli and Erika Poli; and sister, Judith Calverly.  Predeceased by husband, Donald; son, Robert; and grandsons, Jed and Andrew Vocke.

Visitation Friday, June 30th from 2 – 8 pm at Spaulding & Curtin Funeral Directors, Ferndale.  Instate Saturday, July 1st from 1 pm until time of Mass 2 pm at Our Mother of Perpetual Help Parish – St. James Campus, Ferndale.  In lieu of flowers, Mary requested donations to:

Rob Murray Family Camp Fund, c/o Dave Keller, 321 N Stanley, Bad Axe, MI 48413


St. Vincent de Paul Camp Fund, 3000 Gratiot Ave., Detroit, MI 48207     Select a Designation of "Camp"


Paul and I will always carry fond memories of being neighbors with Mary and Don. Mary had a great love of life and was always a good person to chat with. Her advice was always frank and from the heart. We will miss her very much. She was blessed with a loving family and children who were always there for her. Our prayers to them as they say goodbye to her.

Terry and Jenna: We do send our condolences at the lose of your Mom/grandma. I always enjoyed Mary so much. I especially remember when you all stopped here on a family trip. I don't remember the specifics of the conversation...just remember lots of laughter and solving the problems of the world;)

I remember Mary as a lector at St. James church. She had a beautiful voice.

Have know Mary for years and always loved being with her.

Aunt Mary Jane. So many memories I can't even begin. I guess when I think of you, some good times were when I was young and you all lived on Troy Street. Your kids were small. I was over there a lot. We picked peaches in the back yard. I did ironing and baby sitting for you. You always welcomed me over. Rest in Peace and tell Connie I said Hey.

Love you Mary ! Another Angel watching over us. Always with that beautiful smile.
We will miss you ! ❤

When I think back to my childhood with Aunt Maryjane I think of her openness. Her home, her heart and her mind were open to all. I could never get used to just walking in the door to the house on Drayton. Every time she would tell me to just walk in and every time I would knock anyway. Iḿ sure it annoyed her to have to come to the door. I have realized in these days since her passing that her sometimes unconventional choices paved the way for me to make some of my own. I will miss her and remember her always in love and gratitude.

Mary Murray. U were such a wonderful sister. You raised me. Taught me all about the birds and bees. You were always so concerned about my feelings. I will miss you so much.

The loss of a cherished loved one is the most devastating experiences a family can face. At times, the loss may seem unbearable. Please know that there are people who care and more importantly Psalm 34:18 tells us that "God is near to those that are broken at heart. He is the God of all comfort. Our prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time of grief.

Mary I will miss you at camp this year. It just won't be the same. You always showed so much love and kindness to everyone you met. This year you are celebrating camp with all the campers that have passed. Say a special hello to Mary Lou and Don.

Mary will always be in my heart and prayers. She listened and supported me as I raised my kids and made my way in the world. She was a blessing to me and my family. I'm grateful.

Will miss you at camp but you are watching from heaven

Mary was a very nice lady always nice too see her when I did go to camp God bless

Through you Mary, the good Lord produced a Worderful daughter Chris who has brought joy into the lives of so many especially the St. Rose of Lima Choir in Gaithersburg Maryland. Through Chris's journey we each have gotten to know how God's goodness will sustain us in good times and bad time. All of us have been inspired to reach out to others with kindness and our loving care through the example that she, Bob and her children demonstrate time after time.. They are examples of all that we each should be. On behalf of all of us, I say "may the good Lord bless you and we hope that you family will find peace.. God bless all of them and find Peace during a very difficult time.

I met Mrs. Murray in 1978 when Terry and I were students at the University of Michigan. Many times through the years, I was blessed by Mrs. Murray’s gracious hospitality and generosity of spirit. My sweetest memory of Mrs. Murray is the comfort she provided by singing at my father’s funeral Mass. Her beautiful voice was a healing balm in my hour of need. I am so grateful! Rest in peace, Mrs. Murray.

My sympathy to the family. Recall pleasant memories you shared with your loved one. May the God of all comfort sustain you and give you strength to cope.-2Corinthians 1:3,4


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